Tuesday, December 9, 2008

You make a difference

You do make a difference in people’s lives. You may not realize it, but each one of us has that power. It can be as simple as the way we greet one another, to as complicated as the advice we may give. Most of the time, you won’t have the benefit of knowing how you might have influenced someone, but you can bet that you do have the power to influence. “With great power comes great responsibility.” You don’t have to be a superhero for this to apply. Be careful with every word you say. Take responsibility of your actions. What you say and do, impacts everyone around you. Don’t believe me, than prove it to yourself by trying this exercise.
1. First three People: I want you to speak to them in a disgusted voice. Make sure everything that comes out of your mouth is negative and has a nasty tone to it. From the second you say hello, I want them to feel the disgust in your voice. If you are talking to them in person, I want your body language and facial expressions to show the same feelings that are coming out of your mouth.
a. Take notice in the reactions of the people you are speaking with. Notice their expressions prior to hearing you say your first words and as the conversation carries on. Realize that everything you’re saying to them is infecting them like a virus. Watch how their body language changes. By the time you finish with them, or they finish with you, realize the power of your influence.
i. (Notice the influence you have on yourself)
2. Next three People: I want you to speak to them as if though you had just won the lotto. Greet them with a huge smile and a loud voice. Tell them how happy you are, and how great they look. Talk to them about how great life is and how you’re so excited about the prospects of the New Year. Your body language and facial expressions should scream out, “I love my life.”
a. Notice how once again, the person changes throughout the conversation.
i. (Notice the influence you have on yourself)
This exercise, is a simple way to see how we each can influence one another. This kind of influence is just the tip of the iceberg. Our influence on one another is much more profound than the example above. Don’t underestimate the importance of what you say, or do to others. The next time you find yourself wondering whether anyone really notices or cares, rest assured we all notice and we all care.

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