Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Stop Complaining !!

Don’t we all like doing things that work? Don’t we all love when the things we do, bring solutions to our problems? No one likes spinning their wheels in and endless effort to get out of the mud. Well if all this is true, why do we complain? Does complaining about pain make it hurt more or less? Does complaining about what we have to do make it easier or harder? Or how about when we complain about others, does it usually make us like them more or less? Well it is pretty obvious that complaining does nothing to help any of those situations. Some of us may say, “Well it makes me feel better.” Really? I would say it makes you feel worse. I would say it’s the equivalent of picking at a scab. Does that help heal your wound? Now on the other hand, try not complaining. What happens when you sarcastically say things like, “Alright it’s Monday. I am so glad, I get to work today.” Sarcastic as you may say it, it will feel a lot better than saying, “I hate Mondays; this sucks, another five days of work before the weekend.” When in pain, you might try saying things like, ”It could be worse or its getting better every day,” and suddenly things feel better. Bottom line is, you’re not going to ever feel or get better by complaining but you just might, by keeping a positive attitude and saying the right things to yourself.
You know I always mention an added bonus and not complaining has one also, people won’t run from your sight every time they see you coming.

“If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it.”


Mary said...

I couldn't agree with you more. Being a person of few words (usually), I can't imagine why I would purposely pick up the phone to call someone just to complain. I don't get it. I know that sometimes we need to "vent", but I differentiate between venting and complaining. Venting being more of a 1 time, let me get the negative stuff out of my system where as complaining seems to be a chronic problem. Am I just justifying my venting??? haha Be honest!

Kiki said...

As a venter Mary, I am completely FOR justifying your venting;)

This one resonated with me this week as I had two stressful events that I have complained about all week.

Thanks a lot Alex!