Monday, February 23, 2009

I Wish We Were Closer

While speaking with someone today, they expressed to me their desire to be closer to someone they had never been very close to. In fact, they went as far as to somewhat blame the other person for them not having a stronger relationship. We can’t blame others for our relationships or lack thereof. We need to take responsibility for the relationships we create in our lives. Relationships are mostly based on time. In particular the quality and quantity of the time you spend with the other person. This is not to say that there isn’t a sprinkle of chemistry to get the relationship started, but keeping an eye on the fire, that's what keeps things cooking. Look at the relationships you had with a grandparent uncle or aunt, didn’t the amount of time you spent with them, usually represent the quality of the relationship you had. When you go through the good and the bad with people, it creates a bond. Like all rules, this one will also have its exceptions but for the most part, what you put in is what you will get out.
If there is really someone out there that you wish you were closer to, scoot over, put your arm around them and most importantly spend as much time with them as you possibly can. Time will create and or strengthen the bond.

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