Monday, March 8, 2010

Why Me Again?

I am sure we can all relate to suffering through what seems to be the same issue over and over again. It can seem like a particular problem follows us around and the only thing that changes, is the messenger. Over and over again, we find ourselves facing the same issues. What are the chances that out of all the people in the world, these problems choose us. Isn’t it more likely that we are the ones choosing these problems, or better said creating these problems? The reason they keep popping up in our lives, is because we keep making the same decisions that create them. I have told my children that God knows our weaknesses and he is going to keep confronting us with them, until we can master them. We can speed up this process by make a conscious effort to change the way we do things, in an effort to change the results.

Example: If you’re that person that feels like they are always being taken advantage of in your relationships, ask yourself what you have done in each relationship to invite that kind of behavior from others. I can assure you that your decisions have created their actions and in turn the relationship. The next relationship you start, take a different path. Force yourself to look at what might be creating the other person to see you as someone who will accept the unwanted behavior. A different path, will create different results. Unfortunately, we do what we are immediately comfortable with and don’t realize that we create a long term discomfort by doing it.
Changing the way we do things requires, effort, reflection and time, so don’t think it’s going to happen overnight. Overtime it will become easier and the results will be everlasting.


Kiki said...

Great post! Reminds me of the movie Groundhog Day. Have you ever wished we had the chance to do things over again until we get it right...we do!

Alex said...


Nice to see you comment, I thought maybe you had disappeared on me.

Kiki said...

Nope, just too exhausted to think or comment:/ Our baby has turned day into night and night into day; but she slept last night:) So, now to adjust to regular hours again...Yay!