Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Stay Positive

Notice this blog is not called, don’t be so negative, because of course that would be a negative title. To be positive, is not a matter of only thinking positive; it’s a matter of talking positive. Listen to yourself when you talk. I bet you will find your language to be more negative, than positive. To change this is not easy and it will require effort. Every time you go to say something, you will have to let your brain catch up to your mouth. Once you start to do this regularly, it will become a more natural thing. You might not think it’s a big deal, but it’s a much bigger deal than you think. You will begin to notice how your perspective changes. Your life and the People around you will seem different and be different. Your language will be your perception and your perception will become your reality.

If I tell you the following:
“The economy is really bad and many people in my industry are out of work. I don’t know if I will even have a job in a few months. Without a job, I will be forced to change my entire lifestyle and possibly sell my house. Ever since this economic downfall started I can barely sleep at night. I don’t know what to do and I feel helpless. Nobody even cares or helps me try to get out of this mess.”
What is your initial reaction, most likely it is to run? In addition, you probably are not very motivated to help. You are also even less motivated, to continue talking to me because my language is self-defeating and depressing. Even if I was able to create compassion from you, it would not do anything to change my situation. What does talking this way do to help the situation? It only fuels the fear and makes matters worse.

Now instead, I tell you this:
"The economy is forever changing and I will adapt to whatever happens. I have been adapting for the last 42 years and I don’t see this as anything different. The one thing I know for sure is that I am a survivor. In the short time that I have been looking, I have been swamped with opportunities. I know exactly what I need to do, keep the ball moving and things will fall into place."
People like and need to hear this and therefore they will want to be around you. The more people that want to be around you, the more opportunities you will have. Therefore your language and attitude are self fulfilling. I don't want to oversimplify this. It's not really about other people as much as it is about you.
The parallel universe exist in the stories you tell yourself about your life. Tell yourself positive stories and this will be the best year of your life. I know, without a doubt, this is going to be my best.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I just gave someone I live with that advice this morning when I saw that he was playing the old tapes once again. Being postive is so much more attractive and not to mention FUN!